How to get over your break up. A guide to a broken heart.
Going through a break up is something we never want to experience or have happen to anyone. But the fact is break up do happen sometimes, for better or for worse. So I thought I would throw together a little guide on how to get over the ex that you still have those strong feelings for.
1. Make a "clean break"
This is something we all tend to do after a break up. Is try and stay friends with the person. Most times it's better that we all make that clean break away from the one that we use to be close with. Start by deleting all there old e-mails, delete there telephone numbers from all phones, and delete them off your buddy lists. If you have old photos of you and your ex put them in a box and put them away. Get them out of your sight until you are strong enough to come back and take a look at them. It's better to get all those old feelings away and gone from you rather then sitting there and having them come back at you everyday and the temptation to call, e-mail, or IM this person. Make that clean break for the both of you.
2. Change your surroundings.
This may sound like a very useless tip but it can really benefit you and getting over this break up. Change something in your surroundings, like if you were to go out and buy new bed shirts. Or if you were to change the color or your walls, or even something to as small as changing the back ground on your computer screen. Change up your room a little to get the old memories you may have of your ex out.
3. Use a journal or notebook to vent the hard feelings you maybe having.
For a while after your break up keep a notebook near you. Every time you are having a hard time with the break up just reach for this notebook and write down what you are feeling. Make a PRETEND letter to your ex. Write down what you would write to them. But don't actually send this letter to them. Getting those feelings out will release a lot of what you are going through. And remember, along with getting your feelings out, crying is a good thing.
4. Do spoil yourself.
Both guys and girls can benefit huge from this one. After your break up go out and buy something for yourself. Treat yourself to something. Anything that you may enjoy. It can be just getting pampered at the salon, going out to eat at that restaurant, buying that shirt or jeans, or that CD you have wanted. Just treat yourself to anything that will boost your mood or make you feel sexy. We are all worth this one.
5. DO NOT go on the rebound or start dating to soon!
A lot of people have a tendency to start dating to soon to maybe make there ex jealous or replace your ex. Give yourself time to heal from this break up. By going and trying to make your ex jealous it will end up hurting you more in the end. By going on the rebound you are making it harder for yourself and in the end can end up thinking of your ex more. Such as, what are they thinking, are they jealous, do they notice I’m with someone new. Going on the rebound is never a good thing. Along with rebound is dating to soon. You have to let all those feelings of your ex get out of your system. Give yourself a couple months before you try and jump back into the dating since.
6. Don't listen to the negative self-talk.
Once a break up does happen for good we can sometimes start telling ourselves negative things. Don't listen to those negative things. Remember the break up happen and was decided by both or you. It's nothing to do physical or your personality with you. Don't think that if you weighted this much less, or you kissed them this much more, or something on that line that the relationship would have lasted longer. Remember that you are perfect and beautiful in your own way. So start telling yourself positive things everyday and don't believe the negative.
7. Stay active.
Staying active in anyway shape or form will keep your mind off your ex and moving in the right direction. Go out biking, running, walking, just to the park with your little sibling or dog. Anything to get your mind off your ex and out in the world. You can do these things by yourself or with a friend(s). Take up a hobby. Maybe sign up for that extracurricular activity you have always wanted to sign up for. It's your time to shine now and get your life back in order. Get out and enjoy the world anyway you can.
Things you may need. These items are recommended.
1. A shoulder to cry on. Never try and go through the pain alone. Always call someone if need be. The support of friends or family is always a great thing.
2. A teddy bear or blanket. Any of your favorite stuffed toys (not the ones your ex gave you) will help you through those hard times late at night. You can always turn to them and hug them when you feel as if you may cry.
3. Bubble bath or a shower. Try and soak those feelings away. It's a great idea to just relax in the tub or take a hot shower to just make yourself feel more sexy than you already are.
4. Anything that makes you laugh! Load up on your favorite movies, TV shows, or books. Give yourself a few laughs everyday to ease all the pain you have been feeling. Who ever said laughing was bad.
5. As always, tissue. Keep a box of tissue near your bedside or coach just in case.
Going through a break up is something we never want to experience or have happen to anyone. But the fact is break up do happen sometimes, for better or for worse. So I thought I would throw together a little guide on how to get over the ex that you still have those strong feelings for.
1. Make a "clean break"
This is something we all tend to do after a break up. Is try and stay friends with the person. Most times it's better that we all make that clean break away from the one that we use to be close with. Start by deleting all there old e-mails, delete there telephone numbers from all phones, and delete them off your buddy lists. If you have old photos of you and your ex put them in a box and put them away. Get them out of your sight until you are strong enough to come back and take a look at them. It's better to get all those old feelings away and gone from you rather then sitting there and having them come back at you everyday and the temptation to call, e-mail, or IM this person. Make that clean break for the both of you.
2. Change your surroundings.
This may sound like a very useless tip but it can really benefit you and getting over this break up. Change something in your surroundings, like if you were to go out and buy new bed shirts. Or if you were to change the color or your walls, or even something to as small as changing the back ground on your computer screen. Change up your room a little to get the old memories you may have of your ex out.
3. Use a journal or notebook to vent the hard feelings you maybe having.
For a while after your break up keep a notebook near you. Every time you are having a hard time with the break up just reach for this notebook and write down what you are feeling. Make a PRETEND letter to your ex. Write down what you would write to them. But don't actually send this letter to them. Getting those feelings out will release a lot of what you are going through. And remember, along with getting your feelings out, crying is a good thing.
4. Do spoil yourself.
Both guys and girls can benefit huge from this one. After your break up go out and buy something for yourself. Treat yourself to something. Anything that you may enjoy. It can be just getting pampered at the salon, going out to eat at that restaurant, buying that shirt or jeans, or that CD you have wanted. Just treat yourself to anything that will boost your mood or make you feel sexy. We are all worth this one.
5. DO NOT go on the rebound or start dating to soon!
A lot of people have a tendency to start dating to soon to maybe make there ex jealous or replace your ex. Give yourself time to heal from this break up. By going and trying to make your ex jealous it will end up hurting you more in the end. By going on the rebound you are making it harder for yourself and in the end can end up thinking of your ex more. Such as, what are they thinking, are they jealous, do they notice I’m with someone new. Going on the rebound is never a good thing. Along with rebound is dating to soon. You have to let all those feelings of your ex get out of your system. Give yourself a couple months before you try and jump back into the dating since.
6. Don't listen to the negative self-talk.
Once a break up does happen for good we can sometimes start telling ourselves negative things. Don't listen to those negative things. Remember the break up happen and was decided by both or you. It's nothing to do physical or your personality with you. Don't think that if you weighted this much less, or you kissed them this much more, or something on that line that the relationship would have lasted longer. Remember that you are perfect and beautiful in your own way. So start telling yourself positive things everyday and don't believe the negative.
7. Stay active.
Staying active in anyway shape or form will keep your mind off your ex and moving in the right direction. Go out biking, running, walking, just to the park with your little sibling or dog. Anything to get your mind off your ex and out in the world. You can do these things by yourself or with a friend(s). Take up a hobby. Maybe sign up for that extracurricular activity you have always wanted to sign up for. It's your time to shine now and get your life back in order. Get out and enjoy the world anyway you can.
Things you may need. These items are recommended.
1. A shoulder to cry on. Never try and go through the pain alone. Always call someone if need be. The support of friends or family is always a great thing.
2. A teddy bear or blanket. Any of your favorite stuffed toys (not the ones your ex gave you) will help you through those hard times late at night. You can always turn to them and hug them when you feel as if you may cry.
3. Bubble bath or a shower. Try and soak those feelings away. It's a great idea to just relax in the tub or take a hot shower to just make yourself feel more sexy than you already are.
4. Anything that makes you laugh! Load up on your favorite movies, TV shows, or books. Give yourself a few laughs everyday to ease all the pain you have been feeling. Who ever said laughing was bad.
5. As always, tissue. Keep a box of tissue near your bedside or coach just in case.
~Everything happens for a reason.~
~"I can't wait untill the world goes back to when you have sex with someone because you love them."~ ~ Me
~"I can't wait untill the world goes back to when you have sex with someone because you love them."~ ~ Me
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